If you and your spouse have decided to get a divorce, you may be trying to figure out the best way to go about dissolving your marriage. If you would like to resolve significant issues in the marriage without having to go to court, you and your spouse may want to consider divorce mediation. Mediation is a form of dispute resolution that assists in laying a foundation for a joint co-parenting relationship, but it is also a form of dispute resolution that can be used for couples who do not have children. If mediation is something that you have decided to give a try, keep in mind the following tips to improve the chances of success.
Be Prepared with Your Reactions
The meditation process can quickly be derailed due to emotional reactions. Therefore, it is important to practice ahead of time on how you will react when the time comes. The last thing you will want to during the meditation is blame the other party, so you want to practice stating your individual situation calmly and clearly without placing blame on anyone.
You will also want to imagine things that your spouse may state that could potentially upset or anger you. Practice remaining composed—no matter how difficult that may be—when these things are said. Emotions will be triggered throughout this process, but for meditation to be successful, you must keep your emotions in check.
Establish Your End Goals
Before heading into the meditation process, you need to clearly determine what it is that you are hoping to achieve at the end of the process. What is most important to you? What do you believe is most important to your soon-to-be-ex-spouse? You will want to place most of your energy and focus on these things rather than those that are less important.
Be Ready to Compromise
It is important that you understand you will not end up with everything that you absolutely want, but at the same time, you should know that your spouse won't either. As you think about the things that are most important to you, you also need to consider what you are willing to concede to your soon-to-be-ex. By going into the mediation process being willing to compromise here and there, it will be much easier to end the process successfully.
Divorce is never easy for anyone, but when you both decide to try to end the marriage on amicable terms and go through divorce mediation, things can be a bit less stressful. For more information about mediation, how the process works, and what you need to know before you head into the process, contact a divorce mediation service.